🕯️ Quote for the Heart
“Everyone can master a grief, but he that has it.”
💔 There Is No Timeline for Loss
Someone once told me it takes seven years to adjust to the loss of someone close. Maybe that’s true. Perhaps it takes longer. Maybe it never quite settles at all.
There’s no need to apologize if grief is still a significant part of your life—
not after months, not even after years.
As Martha Whitmore Hickman reminds us in Healing After Loss, every grief has its timetable.
Only the person carrying it knows its actual weight.
🧭 Listening to Our Own Needs
We are often our own best judges in grief.
Sometimes we do need a nudge if we’ve become too isolated.
Sometimes we need a professional when the shadows grow too heavy.
But the one thing we never need?
We face pressure from others to “move on” before we’re ready.
Grief is not weakness.
Grief is the evidence of deep, holy love.
👣 A Moment of Pride Amid Pain
Today, I want to honor my son, Bryce.
He recently asked for help with his sleep and depression—
a brave and honest step that many would hesitate to take.
So many young people feel the need to be strong for their parents,
to hold in their emotions and pretend they’re fine.
But grief doesn’t play by those rules.
It doesn’t care how old you are.
It doesn’t care how strong you seem.
It only asks to be felt, acknowledged, and honored.
Bryce’s courage reminded me that real strength looks like truth, not denial.
I am proud of him for taking care of his heart.
🛡️ Your Grief Is Valid
So if someone ever says:
“Shouldn’t you be over it by now?”
Let those words be your armor.
Let your answer be the words of Shakespeare:
“Everyone can master a grief, but he that has it.”
Let them be your peace.
🕊️ Final Blessing
You are not behind.
You are not broken.
You are walking the sacred road of sorrow—
in your time, in your way.
And that is more than enough.
Dyan
Hickman, Martha W. Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Grief Recovery (p. 197). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.
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