🌿 A Sacred Stillness After Loss
There is a sacred stillness that settles over a woman’s heart after loss.
When you bury the man you once called home, time doesn’t just stop—it reshapes.
In that quiet, tender place, the last thing I expected was unsolicited attention from men online.
📩 When Comfort Turns to Intrusion
Many women have shared the same experience with me—
A “thinking of you” message.
A comment wrapped in false compassion.
A gesture that feels more like a romantic pursuit than true comfort.
Let’s be clear:
Grief is not an invitation.
For some women, companionship may come quickly—and that’s their story.
But for me, the ink is still wet with tears.
My soul is not seeking romance.
My heart is not available—and that needs no apology.
✨ How to Respond with Grace and Strength
🕊️ 1. Honor Your Grief
If you feel violated, shocked, or upset—it’s okay.
Grief is holy ground, and you are right to guard it.
You owe no one access to your pain.
🚪 2. Set Boundaries Without Guilt
If a message crosses the line, say:
“I appreciate your concern, but I’m not in a position to engage in personal conversations right now. I am grieving and healing.”
That is enough. You don’t owe more.
🌬️ 3. Trust Your Gut
God gave women discernment.
If something feels off—even subtly—trust it.
The Holy Spirit whispers before red flags ever wave.
❌ 4. Block Without Shame
This is not cruel—it’s wise.
If someone disrespects your grief or makes you feel uneasy, block them.
Your peace is more important than someone’s opinion.
🫶 5. Lean into Safe Spaces
Seek out those who honor your journey—
Family, friends, church, or support groups.
Give your energy to those who care without needing to take.
🕯️ A Final Word
If you are grieving, hear this:
It is okay to protect your silence.
It is okay to close the door on what you’re not ready for.
And it is okay to guard the heart. God is still healing.
“To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven.”
—Ecclesiastes 3:1
This is your season to grieve, to reflect, to breathe in stillness.
And if someone cannot respect that…
They are not meant for this season.
With love and understanding,
Dyan Bertha Fiorentino
Surviving Grief, Still Standing
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